LIFE ON THE HAMSTER WHEEL: Until the summer of 2017, I felt like I lived on a constant hamster wheel. If only I got that next promotion, that next bonus, lost that last 10 pounds, then, and only then, would I have arrived. Only then would I feel successful and fulfilled.
I continued to move the goal line too, so life was never enough as it was. I was stressed, and I lived for the weekends (that I planned and over-scheduled only to LOATHE Sunday evenings). Vacation was the only time I unplugged and was truly present. In fact, I tried to leave the country often so I was truly unavailable to my work and other “obligations.” As you can imagine, my health and well-being suffered. I threw my back out at least 3 times in 4 years. I controlled each and every aspect of my life, yet didn’t feel in control of anything. My relationships were in good standing; however, I didn’t feel like I was giving enough to my husband, kids, family, friends, and community. I was failing at life…
AT LEAST THAT WAS THE STORY I WAS TELLING MYSELF IN MY HEAD. OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER.
In reality, I was a high performer in my career, super committed to my family and to my marriage. However, I knew I needed to make a change. I knew that my usual tactics weren’t working and the same old habits weren't helping me to break my cycle of being overwhelmed and plagued with self-deprecation.
HOW COACHING TOOK ME OFF THE WHEEL: I turned to coaching and enrolled in a year-long coaching certification program and it TRANSFORMED MY LIFE. I trusted my gut and dove in head first with literally no idea what was on the other side, just knowing I needed a change. I wanted to live an epic life on my terms, not just going through the motions.
Through the work with my own coach and via my coach training program, I uncovered my true being, called out my survival mechanisms, identified my life’s purpose, and found my true calling: Coaching.
I always knew I was a connector. I'm fueled by making human connections and have been informally coaching for years. Now, I get to officially connect with people and partner with them to create what they want for themselves and for their lives. I have never found as much joy in my work as I do when a client experiences a breakthrough that gives them access to what they previously deemed as impossible or outside of their comfort zone.
I AM IN THE POSSIBILITY BUSINESS. I AM A COACH. I AM COMMITTED TO WORKING WITH AS MANY HUMANS AS I CAN SO THAT THEY CAN LIVE THEIR VERSION OF THEIR EPIC LIFE!
My husband and I had a dear friend who, after graduating from law school, went on to live an extraordinary life dedicated to helping those who often were without resources and to sharing her gifts in more ways than one can imagine. She eventually became a judge in the state of South Carolina (one of the youngest women to do so) and was highly regarded and respected when she lost a lengthy battle to cancer.
The Honorable Tanya Gee always brought levity, light, wit and her beautiful smile to any room or person she encountered. At her funeral, Tanya’s incredible husband eulogized her and shared a story about Tanya’s life’s mission to: LIVE AN EPIC LIFE. Stickers with this mantra (aka her daily to-do) were shared with those who came to pay their respects. This day and this sentiment struck me so powerfully.
Tanya had always inspired me in life, and now, her legacy continues to inspire me each and every day! I adopted her mantra as the namesake for my coaching practice as I truly believe that any willing human can create that EPIC LIFE they desire!